Self confidence is definitely one of the best keys to happiness. Feeling happy and self-worthy in your own skin is something that we all dream of. The problem that we all find is that even though it is such a valued trait to have – it is extremely hard to develop and keep especially after a tough time. Now, unfortunately I can’t tell you how to gain self-confidence because that’s pretty hard from a girl who doesn’t have that much confidence in herself anyway; but I can give you some tips as to how to be yourself – and hopefully as you begin to accept these points your self-confidence will also increase which should (fingers crossed) lead to a happier life which is really my aim (:

1) Wear exactly what you want to wear. If it’s winter but you just bought a really cute new pair of shorts and you want to wear them – you go and put them on and wear them exactly how you want to wear them (unless it’s so cold you might catch your death in which case – please be careful!) I think the key to this is not to care what anyone else thinks of you. Yes, it’s easier said than done but once you challenge yourself to wear something that isn’t what society wants you to necessarily wear for the first time, it will be so much easier the second, or third time etc round. You don’t have to follow trends or follow what the popular girls and boys wear at school – we all have our own trends and fashions that we set. There are no boundaries to being beautiful. Would you rather be told that you look beautiful like all the other girls and boys, or beautiful because you are happy in your own skin and you are accepting who you really are.

2) Find some new friends who let you value yourself for who you are. Now, I have some of the best friends a girl could ask for, yes we fall out a lot but that’s because we are a bunch of girls, and despite the fact we are completely different in personalities we support each other through absolutely everything and anything. They have shown me the significance of friendship. If you are constantly feeling alone, or your friendship group just doesn’t accept you for who you are and puts you down constantly; it’s time to move on. Friends shouldn’t make you feel any less of yourself – in fact they should give you positivity and if they don’t – unfortunately they aren’t good friends. Although letting them go may be hard at first if this will make you happier in the long term it is the best thing to do. Perhaps, you won’t even have to fully move on from them – you could just join a sport or a hobby and make some more friends who will value you further. Feeling wanted is extremely important and a new friendship group can really help this.

3) Report all negativity and bullying to a responsible adult. People who are bullies and will deliberately try to make people feel less about themselves should not be listened to in any circumstances. If people are being disrespectful to yourself they should no longer be even kept in the back of your mind but reported to somebody immediately. Bullying is one of the main reasons that self-confidence is such an issue, and after being a vicitm myself I can’t empathize enough about how important it is that you go and tell an adult. This can be anyone as long as they are responsible and trust-worthy enough. This could be your mum, your dad, your carer or even a Councillor if you feel more confident speaking to one. You must ignore every negative thought they put into your mind, and replace it with the fact that you are so damn beautiful, and you should be so proud of yourself for everything you have accomplished – whether it is a big or a little thing. Talking to someone and expressing your opinion with someone who really cares about you (which is everyone bar those nasty pieces of work) can make you feel so much happier and confident that you will always have someone to turn to whenever you feel down.

I know, these are only three tips but if I come up with anymore then I will make sure to do a part two of ‘Self-confidence’ if it is really helping yourself – which is really the aim of this blog šŸ˜‰

– Go out today and do something that makes you happy –


Ellie (:

p.s I would recommend checking out this video it’s very cute and may be helpful to build your confidence (make sure to watch it to the end) >.< – for support, advice or simply for sharing your stories



  1. Tife · April 6, 2015

    This is some really great advice! Most of the time I try to do things, and wear things the way I want without worrying about what other people think of me, but some times its easier said than done. A lot of the time when I try to make a decision, I ask myself ‘are you doing it for your self pleasure, or to please others?’, and its helped me to understand how to not care what other people think of me and how to be more self confident.

    I found your blog through teenage blogger central, its really great!

    Noire Beau

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    • oceanioa · April 6, 2015

      Thank you so much for your response , I am really happy that I have helped to develop your understanding in the matter and you hopefully will now become a more confident person šŸ™‚ I’m sorry to hear that you have been struggling with self-confidence I know it must be hard so stay strong as I am sure you are currently šŸ˜‰ I hope my future blogs help you just as much šŸ˜Š
      Have a good day and thank you (:


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